What is communication?
Start with a brief look at the etymological groped in order to define exactly what we're talking about. Step towards deciding how to get it, and when and if it is actually received.
the common term comes from the Latin word "communicate" - to make common - which, by adding the termination-ATIO, you get "communicatio - pooling , participation.
is also interesting to note that the root of the verb "communicate", "com-Munis, sharing an office, it is also the same as the word Community. The
ordinary sense of the term communication include both the union of physical places (ways of communication) as the transmission of "content", and in both cases are based on the concept of making common share.
We can talk about communication only if this goal is achieved. Like as not ever call me "way of communication" did not complete a highway or a railway line is not active, it makes no sense to talk about communication in the sense of transmission of content, not being achieved "understanding" about what is expressed (in the sense, understanding. What do other than "compliance review" that may or may not exist ...). Otherwise it is the maximum possible to speak of "attempting to communicate."
So how do you communicate?
The act of communication is, as every action, the result of a variety of techniques, more or less effective, in place to achieve the expected result in a more or less conscious. This is just for every action, whether it is or is not aware of. Walking, for example, does not require, for normal healthy people at a time, awareness of a star moving toes in a specific way, but on this (and other, balance, coordination ...) is based, as well as playing an instrument at a certain level of mastery, does not require (more) awareness of the technique used but, as the mastery of execution allows attention reduced or unconscious, can not ignore it.
communicate, and how every action, a matter of using technology, use of proper technique.
So initially observe how we act - we, x, y, who is good, who is scarce, when the communication takes place and when it happens - to understand the variables involved and how they generate the expected results or not. After careful when you practice what you learned.
do not claim to be the authority on the subject of Watzlawick, nor to present a "protocol" complete. Confronted with the issue I noted some interesting points that I communicate:
- responsibility. Attributed solely to external circumstances, the responsibility to allow or prevent the communication be cut off virtually every speech. Considering these circumstances can be created by us (or can be created in theory, but "difficult" in practice - which translates to "I like to think that I could but since I can not" - that is a convoluted way to say its still not influence the circumstances. ..), they, or are there or not there are: the matter ends there. Necessary condition, in the absence of fortuitous, as they are rare, "favorable conditions" to communicate (do that, not only tempt us) is taking its responsibility over the process.
- Determination . Convey something of individuals who represent a different reality (Everyone ...) presents difficulties. Surrender, flee, avoid, ignore, fossilize, tense, close, aggrieved, offended, attack, fear or "needs" are examples of obstacles to overcome such difficulties. The determination gives the time and space that, despite the obstacles and overcome them, communication can take place. Each process requires that he be granted the space / time to manifest. Stop trying to prevent the communication.
- accuracy. Participate in making policy (Communicating, remember?) Requires clarity. Its opposite, the vagueness, with its multiple, different, however legitimate, interpretations increases the misunderstanding. "Making Common" is accomplished by reducing the misunderstanding. Is precisely in the correct use of the terms used, in accordance to what is described as observed.
- Relevance . A communication content. The statements and / or questions that arise in an attempt to make explicit the content should be relevant to it. The concept of relevance here goes beyond the elementary or less relevance with the general concept, but relates to whether implicitly underlying content in question. For example, sometimes the content in question was a difficult professional with a job, the communication would involve finding a solution to this difficulty. On this basis, statements like "but it is difficult" would be, as always, irrelevant. Since this proposition as the topic relates is not linked with the implicit goal of determining a solution, since it expresses a factor irrelevant to that purpose. Are either irrelevant statements out of context, and those are not true, and what is unimportant.
